What I learned about an old church and an eclectic group of deceased neighbors in England helped me achieve grace in the midst of feeling like I was drowning.
“Today I found my face
Floating in a puddle of grace
Porcelain doll with cracks to mend,
Oh, Mama, I found a friend”
Amy Jo Johnson “Puddle of Grace”
I don’t know what it is about London. There’s something about that city that seized me from the moment I first visited it. I saved my money and took a solo trip there just after I turned 21. I vividly recall sitting in the back of a black taxi from Victoria Station, speeding down the streets (on the wrong side of the road), heading for the tiny one-room flat I had rented for two weeks in the Kensington area. I stared out the window and marveled at row after row of Victorian buildings standing like sentinels, the crowded sidewalks, and the double deckers buses rushing down the streets. I knew Dorothy had exited Kansas.
After settling into my apartment, I ventured out to visit Sainsbury, a grocery store several blocks from where I stayed. My walk took me past a small brown brick church sitting at the corner of a residential street and a busy thoroughfare. St. Stephen’s Church struck me with its simple beauty and became a touchstone point on my daily walks to the subway station. I knew I was entering or leaving my neighborhood when I saw the church.
At times, I longed to go inside. Not to attend a service but just to see the inside of a scenic British house of worship I had come to think of as my neighbor. My youthful rebellious nature did not allow me to throw open the doors and walk in. Me? Too cool for church. I took a photo of it and, years later, regretted not checking out the interior.
The other night I found myself thinking about this church. In fact, I’ve been thinking about London a whole lot these days. I plan to go back, although I’ve got some hills to climb before I’m ready. I’m working on improving my health, continuing to rebuild my writing career in order to have a healthy vacation savings fund, and more. In the meantime, I’m enjoying using the internet to access my old haunts.
I googled the name of the church and found it had an unexpected history. Some fifty years before I came to call this area my temporary home, a man named Thomas, a native of St. Louis, who had become a British citizen in 1927, moved close to the church. He found himself enchanted by how this house of the holy took him in and provided him with comfort and guidance during such trials as a divorce, the death of a subsequent wife, and a crisis of faith. He eventually became a senior layman there and helped shepherd the congregation. A year before my own birth, Thomas died of emphysema at his Kensington home.
Why the story of this man takes up a page of the church’s website surprised me. The man’s full name is Thomas Stearns Eliot, and he was a writer. Like me. For those who don’t know him, T.S. Eliot’s most well-known work is a collection of poetry called Old Possum’s Book of Practical Cats. This book became the basis of one of the most famous pieces of musical theatre: Cats. He had ties to the magical world of theatre. Like me. We were neighbors of a sort, although we walked the same streets at different times.
This unexpected discovery about my location all those years ago wasn’t the only one. I recently read Carrie Fisher’s autobiography The Princess Diarist, in which she mentioned the location of the flat she stayed in while filming Star Wars. Being an enormous fan of hers, I hit up Google maps and discovered that just ten years before I hit the London streets, Princess Leia had lived half a dozen blocks from my flat. I had walked by her street a few times, having no idea of its cinematic history. She was another writer, like me.
Maybe a year ago, I read an article about Freddy Mercury, the irrepressible singer for Queen, that gave an address for the home he used to occupy in London while I was there. Had he invited me over for tea, it would’ve been a three-block walk for me.
Connections, tied to a posh area of the hub of the U.K. An infamous poet with a history I knew nothing about at the time and whose very footsteps I walked in. Did Carrie Fisher visit the pub around the corner from her flat that I frequented? It got me thinking about the connections we have to others, even when we lack awareness of them, as well as connections with ourselves, particularly as we wade through challenging times.
I already know where I will stay when I go back to London. The same borough of Kensington, both familiar yet updated for the new century, with inviting shops, pubs, and restaurants I want to visit. As I sat there the other night, reading about my little church, I listened to a song playing on repeat. A tune I used to love but had not heard in years. Puddle of Grace by Amy Jo Johnson, a young singer-songwriter who started to make some noise in the late 90s. It’s emotional and hit oh so close to home as I listened to the song over and over.
Unexpectedly, I dissolved into tears, completely overwhelmed by my need to get back to London. I would have made a deal with the devil to step through my laptop screen and stand on the street in front of St. Stephen’s Church. Not for religious reasons, but because it would mean I could skip the mountains of bullshit I must scale before I can travel that far again. Why couldn’t Scotty beam me up and gently set me down in a metropolis I call nirvana, thus ending my crying jag?
Lost in my puddle of tears, I realized I was also taking up real estate in a puddle of grace. I have purposely moved out of an old comfort zone in order to reach the goals I set, including one to travel far again. And the funny thing about leaving a comfort zone is that – get this! – sometimes it makes me uncomfortable. Yet, there’s something about that; something graceful. Granted, it often feels akin to watching a five-year-old practicing ballet moves, tripping over her own feet, and charitably calling it “graceful”. Still, it counts as movement. Dancing through one puddle at a time.